Friday, April 30, 2010

walk a mile

take a minute and walk a mile
walk a mile in these shoes of mine
you think my life is perfect?
wear my shoes and find out how hard it pinches
feel the blisters and the sores
feel the hot grounds through the shoes
then wonder how i've walked for this long
you take out the time to judge me
mapping out the way you think i should live my life
thinking i should have said this, done that
walk a mile in my shoes and feel the heartaches
then next time you decide to judge me
let the hands of memories lay on your chest and remind you
you may think that you can live my life way better than i am living it
but have you walked a mile in my shoes?

i'm not going to be self-righteous and tell you that i dont judge people..cos i do..a lot.
i think 'why the heck is she wearing that?'..'why is her weave like that?'..'why the heck is she even wearing a weave?'...'why doesnt she ever smile?, why is she such a slut? why does she always curse? why cant she ever be nice? and then i think 'why does she always judge people?'

BUT...i try my possible best to remind myself that it's none of my business and move on with my life. i try my best to remind myself that i have no control over how someone lives their life or how they eat, talk, whom they sleep long as it's not affecting me one way or the other then its really none of my business.
this is easier said than done..especially when you are with a group of your girlfriends and you guys are having fun it's really , really hard not to talk about other about what we heard about their love lives, talk about how we think that girl is a whore, or how that one is dumb or what we saw on's really hard.
well, since i can't control what i think most of the times, i try very hard to control what i say..i try to keep my thoughts within me and try not to share them with friends either if i know that its prolly going to hurt someone when it gets out.
most of the times, people say stuff that hurt others and they say that they are 'calling you out on your BS'...uhhhh, most of the time the BS they are calling out is probably none of their business...
so yeah, i'm not here to tell you that im perfect and that i dont judge people...i've just decided to try and be a better person.try to be the kind of person that i would be proud of anytime and anyday.
so before i judge people, i walk a mile in their shoes...
sometimes i still go ahead and judge them
other times, i stop myself before i do.
either ways, i'm trying to be a much better person.

anyway, i wasn't going to blog till after my exams which are like in two weeks but i changed my mind for a couple of reasons.
school is seriously killing chE classes are just too time demanding and i hate my chE programming class...i did my last programming homework for the term and then when i ran the program ,it wouldnt this morning after my class, i met my teacher and we spent two hours trying to figure out what the heck was wrong with the program only to realise that i didnt type one letter and this particular homework is worth 10% of my final yeah.
school is taking six classes now, and i have four more scheduled in the summer, sometimes i get so tired of trying to graduate early.sigh
on a lighter note,,i did get into the honor's fraternity that i rushed for this semester and made a whole lot of friends in the process so it was cool.
i hope everyone in blogville is doing good. didnt have time to proofread so please ignore my mistakes..and i have 94 followers already..thank you guys for helping me build my blog back after i lost it.

fave fb quote: atheists piss me say that you don't believe in God means that you have to acknowledge the fact that there is a God, not to believe in.

i actually heard that phrase in a poem on def jam and then saw it on someone's status the next day, go figure.

have a great weekend. you can tell i just put together this post in a few minutes...forgive me. i'll be back soon properly.


Jaycee said...

Congrats on getting into the honors fraternity. Yeah, it's hard not to judge people...we have to constantly check ourselves to make sure we aren't doing that. I enjoyed reading this. And interesting fb quote.

Fragilelooks said...

miennnn aint i jst proud of u LEGSS.

F and M said...

Judging people is a flaw we all struggle with; admitting it just brings you closer to fixing it. Congrats on joining the fraternity... Hang in there with school work as well... You science students are actually working against death threats- it's like they are trying to kill you!

By the way, that status is misinterpreting the idea of atheism. Not believing in God or not being sure about his role in the world is agnosticism, not atheism. Atheists don't believe God exists in the first place so they are not contradicting themselves in any way.

Myne Whitman said...

It's so easy to judge but it's also a big burden like you pointed out. At the end of the day it's none of our business and most times we can't even do anything sef.

All the best with your studies dearie and have a good weekend.

Blowing Blessings Your Way said...

Judging ppl...we're all guilty of it! I like the fact that ur tryin to be a better person!
Congrats on makin the frat!
And good luck with school...I hope u'll do well on ur final exams and assignments! Come back soon!

Fabulo-la said...

I wont judge ur post by the rushed way it looks.


Good luck on ur exams and gurl! Take it easy naa! Where r u rushing to?

Miss Natural said...

I love the status update. never fails to disappoint. I've always wondered the same thing myself. lol I know, thats why I hate gossiping. The golden rule, you do to others as you'd have them do unto you, so judging others is not though its very very hard.

Miss Natural said...

Goodluck in your exams too!

Mwajim Al said...

Congrats on the semester so far... yes all the hardwork gets to you at times, but the benefits are bountiful at the end! And I can relate to your programming project homework... smh it happens all the time, gets easier as you take more programming classes! Take care and good luck on your exams :)

Red Rose Princess said...

All the hardwork would pay off in the long run. Also, congrats on getting into the honors society. Just curious how come its called a fratenity? I thought you were a girl?.Anyway, groups are always a fun way to meet more people and have a better experience.Goodluck on your exams

Sugarking said...

Chai, the babe killed it again. I've never been bored coming here yet!

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

Congrats on joing the honors fraternity and all the best in your exams.

We all judge people, love the post

NBB said...

Congrats on getting into the frat..
All the very best.
I always look forward to ur fav fb status. lol

2cute4u said...

I'm swallowing everything you've written..
No vetting..
I'm so hooked on you.

Azazel said...

Wat a stupid quote..
How do atheists acknowledge there is a God not to believe in?
Siggh some of these quotes these days self..

Chi-Chi said...

Congrats baby!
would be back on blogger soon
love the fave fb quote! so true...

Nice Anon said...

Done well on your exams then? Good luck to ya

Suru said...

Good luck on your exams I know how stressful exams are.

Ebony~!* said...

Good luck on your exams babes. You are a success though so we dont need to sweat.

~Sirius~ said...

That FB stat is so spot on!

Ms cHe!
Good luck in your exams!

Judging is human nature....It varies like you already stated.

sosexy said...

I found this especially nostalgic..

Inemesit said...

Atheists put God is the class of santa claus and the tooth fairy; now, thats acknowledgement